Marriage Equality

I typically try and keep these posts light-hearted or about life in general, but today…I’m going to tackle an issue that in some way affects us all personally:  Marriage Equality.  I am not labeling it ‘gay marriage’ because there is no such thing about making ‘marriage’ gay.  It is about bringing equality to all that deserve it.  This nation was founded upon the premises of equality for all, but rather than go into the legal aspects of it.  I want to ask certain questions:

Why should this even go before the Supreme Court, determining the fate of whether or not I have the ability to get married?  9 people, whose opinions shape my very ability to get married?  Why should these people decide such a matter, when after all, it’s mine whether or not to pursue such a monogamous relationship?  And what disgusts more is cretin like Antonin Scalia making comments that it’s okay for Coloradans to be openly hostile to homosexuals (re:  Romer v. Evans).  I have no words that this man represents the justice of the Constitution.

Second, on what grounds can one legitimately oppose gay marriage?  Morality is determined by the Bible, which is strictly outlawed by the Constitution under the Establishment Clause.  Second, if you oppose it because of ‘tradition’, whose tradition is that?  Society changes as does culture.  The LGBT community is out of hiding and is prominent in many ways affecting lives more than simply ‘getting married.’  We are your best friends, your family members, the adoptive parents of your sons/daughters child born out of wedlock.  At the end of the day, isn’t a relationship about love?  So, thereby, by opposing gay marriage one doesn’t support more love in this world.  That’s reprehensible.

Third, why wish for the states to have the single say?  This is not simply an issue of ‘state’s rights’ and that’s a way for the traditionally conservative states to hide behind tradition.  If I got married in Maryland or Massachusetts, they will recognize the marriage.  Yet, if I were to move to Ohio…it wouldn’t be recognized.  How can we have numerous states with their own laws, when it is governed at both a federal and a state level?  It is a matter that needs to be handled by the federal government, as it affects everyone.

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While those are the common issues, I want to point out certain things yet still that are not questions.

Taxes – joint filing.  Marriage is encouraged through the federal government for taxation purposes.  So, because we’re gay we can be openly discriminated against?  What about kids killing themselves over the bullying that is occurring due to intolerance?  We should embrace a culture of tolerance and acceptance.

So, sitting there, stating that marriage equality will ruin the institution of marriage; I ask, how?  That is a question that has no legitimate answer.  Hiding behind tradition for fear of change is revolting.  This world has never moved forward by obliging itself to the status quo.  As the Supreme Court hears the cases this week and subsequently hands down a ruling this June, it boils down to one thing:  love.


I just thought I’d say this:

Females get to pick from 90% of the male population for a mate…I get 10%.  And that’s not even including the closeted ones.  So we might toss another 5% on, just because I don’t just metrosexuals anymore than I do Sarah McLachlan before ruining my day with those ASPCA commercials.

And now:  Hibernation.

So the Sphinx Speaks.

Douche bags & Best Friends

My best friend is dating a douche bag.  It’s her first “serious” boyfriend, but oh my god.  I met him on Sunday, because he was going to be deployed.  At first I was like, “okay…you seem normal and cool.”  That got blasted out of the water quite quickly.  I soon realized he was a douche.  First, my friend brought up how I worked on the Obama campaign and how it’s the only thing we don’t discuss because we sit on polar opposites of the political spectrum.  Her boyfriend, however, is in the navy.  “I can’t believe you would vote for him.  How can you he’s trying to slash the military budget!”  Excuse me?  First, you don’t yell at me about politics unless you want me to perform a lobotomy revealing your peanut brain.  Two, the military has absolutely nothing to do with my vote.  Three, I am entitled to vote how I please.  I went silent while my friend handled the situation, which is to say, she simply cajoled him to stop.  I never got an apology for that one.

Then, today, it became clear that he was no longer going to deploy due to “Obama’s” budget cuts.  *roll my eyes* Naturally, my friend told me and then soon thereafter I started getting texts from her via her cell phone berating Obama again.  Excuse me, what fucking planet are you on that I am going to take that?  This time I bit back and said, “You are aware that the next ten countries defense budgets do not equal the US defense spending, correct?”  My friend intervened again and said, “Sorry he’s just upset about not being deployed.” That’s an excuse for being a toolish behavior.  And it defends him, while enabling him to continue to do it.


So I’m left in an awkward position.  Do I tell her that i think her boyfriend is a douche bag, or do I let it play out?  And I haven’t decided if I’m going to tell her that I’m getting annoyed with his immaturity.  I probably won’t, because I want to see if she’ll handle it from afar.  If not, I’ll be forced to tell her I’m done with it.

Douche bag.


The Single Gay Life of a 20-something

This isn’t no Ke$ha song, though I do display it quite well.  I don’t shit glitter, but I do Budweisers.  I go to gay bars and everyone around me is just acting fabulous and chanting Beyonce lyrics, and I’m just trying to find a cigarette to pretend I’m not smoking while nobody knows where I went.  Inconspicuous, I know.  It’s rough being awesome.

Then there’s the lonely moments.  When you realize that you’re incredibly single.  No future, no prospects, just living each day trying to figure out tomorrow.  As my friend told me, “We’re in our twenties, this is the time to figure it out.  Would you want to wake up next to someone and not know what would have been different if you lived?”  It’s true, we’re living wild and free.  She’s graduating with her Master’s in Counseling in August, wants to move to a big city but doesn’t know what to do.  We’re lost, confused, and wish someone would hold a candle to guide us ahead.

We won’t get it.

In fact, the only thing we’re being given is something that many would die for in their forties:  a fresh start.  A new time to introduce ourselves to a new city, new people, as the person we have become out of true strife and struggle.  We’ll have to go into this world with our highly educated, debt laden asses and figure it out.  And along the way build a life that we are proud of.

Personally, I’m starting bartending school next week.  I’m setting myself up for success, not failure.  Now if someone could tell my mother that…


2013: Resolutions, Changes, Creation

Some foolhardy administrator gave me blogging privileges…We shall regret that in the future, until then let’s toast to 2013!

I’m sure many people have created resolutions; personally, I wish I still went to a gym so I could track who started coming at the New Year and when they gave up on their resolution to get fit.  Just go to Taco Bell and try to flush your system out.  My other favorite is giving up smoking at the New Year; I’ve partaken in that one numerous times.  Resolutions are great so long as you’ve got determination to see them through, otherwise…it’s just an ‘excuse’ to start over.  Such is life.  At least it’s worth taking a risk change, right?

That’s what brings me to 2013:  It’s time to take that chance, make that blind leap, throw caution to the wind and see where you land.  You may fall flat on your face, but you won’t land at the same place you were at.  Don’t make out with homeless men though.  I learned that the hard way.  Most of all, just learn from the previous years.  Constantly grow, ever expand, and never stop finding new things in this world.

Make 2013 your year.